How To Become

In this world, it’s either you are or you are not. If you are not, the best chance you have of ever becoming is to learn from someone who is. In order to do so, you must be willing to accept that you are not and they are.

Unfortunately sometimes pride, ego, and insecurities won’t allow us to admit that we are not and someone else is, so we try to fake it; we try to act like we are. We may fake it well for some time and fool a few people, but still at the end of the day, you are not.

One day last Summer, I was hanging out with my friend Chris in Virginia and he asked if I wanted to learn how to skateboard. He knew how and I didn’t, so I said “sure, show me.” That required me sitting back and trusting that he would show me. I followed every direction to the letter and I ended up doing a pretty decent job. More importantly, I didn’t fall and break my head. Chris was a skater and I wasn’t. I accepted that and as a result I was able to learn from him and eventually become a somewhat decent skater.

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In the following episode of Boy Meets World, Cory feels as though teaching is easy. He ridicules Mr. Feeny and feels he could easily teach a class better than Mr. Feeny does. So Mr. Feeny hands over the chalk and allows Cory to do things his way. Naturally, chaos ensues and he falls flat on his face.



When I worked under someone else, I let him make decisions. I took decisions only in his absence or if he said I should. I let him get the first and the final word. I gave my opinion only when it was asked for or when I felt it would be beneficial to the entire team. We walked into a venue, I made sure he would walk in first because he knew who was who and what was what. I always deferred and I was clear on who the leader was. Even in moments when I felt I knew better I still let him play his role. As a result, I was able to blossom under the system and learn enough to one day do my own thing. If I tried to do my own thing before I was ready, I would have made a fool of myself.

Kobe is Kobe for a reason. When Ron Artest tries to be Kobe, the team loses and he looks foolish. When Ron Artest is Ron Artest, Kobe airballs, Ron gets the put back, the team wins, and he’s the hero for the night. Ron deferrs to Kobe, Kobe deferrs to Phil Jackson, Phil deferrs to Mitch Kupchak, Mitch deferrs to Jerry Buss. As a result, you have a championship team.

Just a random thought on this beautiful evening as the Sun gives way to the Moon. It’s nature. We all get our chance to shine if we wait our turn.

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Diddyblog.com/category/love

If you don’t know, now you know. Diddy is one of my favorite people ever. I admire his business acumen, his musical genius, and most importantly, how he’s trying so hard to show us what a positive approach to life can do.

I can’t lie, I’m a very positive person, but every now and then when negativity is brought to my doorstep, I care to entertain it. It takes A LOT to do the whole Diddy ‘you hate me but I still love you’ thing. Doesn’t help that I’m a Leo. If you step into our den — trying to provoke us, we’re contractually obligated to tear your bones apart till you’re lifeless. Then stand over your carcass, wishing you would have just left us alone.

Don’t go the Leo route. Go the Diddy route. Negativity produces hot breathe and other things we don’t want. We don’t want conflict. We want hundreds of years of success. We want laughter and joy. We want to treat our women with the care and respect they deserve. We want to raise our children and see them grow to be better than we were. We want to learn and grow for the remainder of our days on this planet we’ve been given. Life is beautiful. Not everyone sees that, but still we pray for them and wish them speedy recovery. Whenever they are ready to join, we’ll be here to hug and love them.

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The Opposite Of Success

Insecurity

Jealousy

Hate

Envy

Anger

“Me”

“I”

Misguided Emotion

Pride

Ego

“My way”

Lack of order

Opposition to leadership

Opposition to growth

Fear

Haste

Aggression

Thinking from a self-perspective

Unhealthy competition

Lack of respect — for self, for others, for history, for future

Lack of courtesy

Inability to let go

Thinking inside the box

Lack of restraint

Lack of self-control

Disbelief in the concept of team

Distrust

Envy

Inferiority Complex

Study most successful people, you won’t see any of these things.

Study most unsuccessful people, you will see a lot, if not all of these things.

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Phellito’s Way: Robot Mode Disabled

Depending on what scene you tuned into the movie that is Phellito’s Way, you may or may not know that I used to work for a New York based company called The Famous Firm, run by a guy named Sickamore. I did this for about a year and a half and it was what got me to where I am today. During my run with the company, I used to just sit back and observe a lot of things. One of the most interesting things I observed was that the owner, Sickamore, used to frequently take trips to anywhere he could anytime that he could. He also would frequently turn off his phone or computer at the oddest times and not attend to business matters until he was ready again.

This week makes one year since I launched Da Fam Inc and I completely understand now why he did those things. I understand now why Jay-Z, as president of Def Jam “took too many vacations”, or why Diddy does what he does. Because now I find myself doing similar things. Bare in mind that Da Fam Inc is nowhere near the level of FF, Bad Boy, or Def Jam, but it’s still the same. I’m at the beginning stages of building what we all hope will be something great and I’m learning that when you lead, especially in hip-hop where proper business protocol is usually disregarded, you’re faced with so many things that it’s important for your sanity to just get away — weekly if possible. When it’s not possible to take a trip, it’s probably wise to have a few hours where you neglect your Blackberry and computer. Not because you don’t care, but because you’re still human. Success in today’s business setting requires you to become a robot. If you act like a robot long enough, people really start to think you are one. They call you at anytime of day with any kind of problem, expect you to solve it, talk to you how they please, and you’re expected to just take it because, well, you’re a robot and that’s what robots do.

With that said, shout out to my co-manager Kunle Oki of Skc who is in Miami right now, living it up I hope. And shout out to me for typing this from a remote location — Blackberry off, slippers on, robot mode temporarily disabled.

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Shhhhh

As in quiet. Sometimes it’s just better. Writing/saying everything on your mind isn’t always wise. At times it’s best to just pull back a bit. I’ll be back with some words soon. In the mean time, here’s some stuff:



Love,

Phella

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Spur-It

Spirit – The vital principle or animating force within living beings.
Spur – Incite or stimulate

If you ever feel yourself losing your spirit — that vital thing that we all need as human beings to be able to enjoy life, do whatever it takes to spur it back into action. For me it’s music. If there’s good music around, my spirits are high. High spirits usually lead to things going your way.

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Janelle Monae feat B.O.B. and Lupe – Tightrope Remix

How sick is this? I’m new to Janelle Monae. Honestly know very little about her and this is the first song I’ve heard but I love it. Love the song, love her rap, love the video, the style, everything. Not to mention two of Atlantic Records finest are featured on it. I give this an A+.

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July Ph-irst

Here’s the thing; things happen. The world isn’t supposed to be all great and kind to us. We haven’t always been kind and great to it — actually, if you balance it out, the world is generous to us far more than we’re generous to it. As a person that understands this, when bad stuff happens, I never really get down. It’s nature and it’s natural for us to suffer and go through some rough times.

I purposely shared a bunch of negative situations and hard times in my recent music and writings for a few reasons: One reason being that sometimes I give off this vibe that I’m unphased by things and people start to think you’re some kind of “chosen one”. Stuff happens to me just like everyone else but I’ve learned to not let it affect my perspective. That’s all I’m trying to show. You win, you lose, then you make adjustments and start winning again. The ultimate goal is to have a Championship at the end of the season and the season doesn’t end until we die.

Second reason is that I know not everyone likes me and wants me to do good. Some people get off on seeing you go through it. They sit back and just love it. I like to satisfy those people and show them the misery that they lust for. It’s a very quick and effective way of finding out who really is in your corner. Not saying everyone should help you or reach out to you; that’s unrealistic to expect that. Some people actually do “help” and “reach out” only so they can get a front row view to your misery. You know what we do to them? We let them get really really really close, let them think it’s over for us, then we look up and smile. Works everytime.

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Long Summer Freestyle Pt. 2

Like 4 or 5 summers ago, I was working in my good friend and producer J.Rob’s basement and he played this crazy track for me. Painful soul sample, rough-hard drums — everything I needed to compliment my raspy semi-angry delivery. We called that Long Summer Freestyle and till this day it’s one of the best songs I ever did in my opinion.

Well yesterday we were working and before I could leave I had to get some stuff off my chest. Life has been moving kind of fast ya know? So J.Rob played  me something and 20 minutes later, Long Summer Freestyle Pt. 2 was born.

Enjoy.

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Fiddler On The Roof

I hung out on Sunday afternoon with my friend Sterling in the heart of MY hometown and her “hometown” of DC. It was good times. Humind 100 degree weather, salty food, lots of walking and almost getting beheaded by the shade thing on her rooftoop when the wind uprooted it.

Jokes aside though, we talked about everything from marriage to politics to music to why it seems our society has issues with face-to-face and phone conversations. Just life stuff. I like all my friends but I’ll admit I’m a bit more partial to the ones that can cover the whole spectrum and help me grow as a person each time I talk to them. And also the ones with rooftops.

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