“All you’ll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you.”
Be very weary of people who never have opinions or thoughts for you. Don’t be weary in the sense that they’re bad people, but understand that they probably don’t care about you too much. I go back to using children as an example. If you see your child, who you love so much, climbing a high place, you’ll probably scream at them to get down. The child may be upset at you for this but at least you weren’t indifferent. An indifferent person would let the child climb, fall, break his neck — then maybe, just maybe, call an ambulance.
I see it all the time in all aspects of my life. People are just too cool or too pre-occupied to care. They have no opinion, no feedback, no nothing.
The sad part about all of this is that most of us tend to seek to surround ourselves with indifferent people. I know I did at one point. “Man I love (so and so) cuz he don’t care about nothing.” Really? Is that a reason to love someone? The problem is that most of us don’t care for the truth. We’d rather seek a comfortable lie to live in and anyone who tries to take us out of it is seen as the enemy. The true enemy, however, is the person who won’t allow you or your career to be the greatest it can be.
Don’t believe me, look back at all the kids you knew growing up. Think of the ones who had no form of guidance and structure in their lives. The ones who ate whatever, drank whatever — stayed out till anytime of night. They were always classified as “cool”. We always envied them and said we wished we had parents like theirs. I don’t know about your neighborhood, but from mine, every last one of those people are either dead, in jail, or even worse: alive with no possibility of a successful future. That’s the outcome of years and years of indifference.
If you want to get in shape, you get a physical trainer that stays on you and makes you eat healthy and workout. You don’t get an indifferent person who allows the occasional triple cheeseburger or the half mile run that was supposed to be four miles; that would be senseless. Same applies to every other aspect of life. Surround yourself with indifferent people and yes it may be convenient, but trust, you’ll end up in very bad shape in the long run.
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