That’s what I believe you’ll be receiving if you attend the above. My friend and business partner Kunle Oki, founder of Skc, will be taking things to a new level next month when he hosts his inaugural workshop at the University Of Maryland. This isn’t a business website, but more so a place where I share my personal experience, thoughts, and ideas with the world. So in that spirit, I won’t go into any further detail about the workshop, instead I’ll share a bit of my personal experience with the man that’s hosting the workshop.
Since our initial meeting at Howard University last Fall, Kunle and I have discussed theories and philosophies on everything from women, to of course, business. Mostly what we discuss is life as a whole and ways to make it work for you. A few examples are below.
This of course is me paraphrasing and giving my interpretation of some our conversations. I don’t know exactly the format of the workshop but I would hope some of this gets shared:
Emulate Nature…Accept Nature
To emulate nature means to be natural. Nature is unpredictable. Nature is caring. Nature can be seen as harsh. Nature doesn’t stop for anything or anyone. Nature is capable of so many different things and is unapologetic for it. If we adopt the characteristics of nature and apply it to how we live on a daily basis, success and happiness will NATURALLY follow.
Give People What They Deserve…Only Accept What You Deserve.
Believe it or not, we’re only given what we deserve in this world. To give a person more than what they deserve would be cheating yourself and setting yourself up for disappointment. To give a person less than what they deserve would be cheating them and setting yourself up for resentment. Whether business, personal or in between, give only what is deserved and you’ll be able to live with the outcome. How many times do you hear a woman saying “I gave him the best ten years of my life then he cheated on me”? Hate to break it to you lady, but he probably didn’t deserve the best ten years of your life. You made an error in judgement and gave someone more than what they deserved. Whether a job, a relationship, or a business transaction, if you’re receiving less than what you deserve and you’re aware of it, you’ll begin to feel resentment. That resentment can turn into hate. Hence why most people “hate” their jobs. They feel they deserve better.
To take it further, only accept what you deserve. Sometimes if we play the wrong cards well enough, we can get lucky. What I mean by that is, sometimes we take on more than what we deserve and feel because it worked that we’re entitled to it. I’ve been down that road quite a few times and it’s fun up until nature kicks in and reminds you that you never deserved such. One of my favorite recent rap lines is from Malice of the Clipse:
“With a family of 4, never did I deserve a two seater Porsche”
How crazy is that?
Levels Of Trust
Trust doesn’t have to be so hit or miss. We always say “I don’t trust this person” or “I trust this person with all my heart”. Those are two extremes and extremes are rarely the way to go. The theory Kunle shared with me is that it’s okay to trust a person 10%, maybe 20%, maybe even 100%. You make the call, then act accordingly. You wouldn’t ask the 10% guy to take your daughter to school; her safety can’t be at 90% risk. But perhaps that 10% is enough that you’ll invite him to an event you’re having, knowing there’s a 90% chance he won’t show up. If you look into the crowd and see him, be thankful. If you don’t see him, shrug your shoulders and keep it moving. This scale can be adjusted as frequently as it needs to be. Sometimes the 100% trust people in our lives show that they’re really just 50% trust people. You quietly scale it back and proceed. No need to fight or argue, just accept.
Those are just three concepts that I can think of off the top of my head out of hundreds. I believe as long as we’re learning and unlearning in this world, we give ourselves a good shot at prosperity. Friend or no friend, business partner or no business partner, Kunle is a guy you can learn and unlearn from and I’d encourage you all to inquire about the workshop if it interests you.
